ValenTHRIVE Life Changing Experience


For The Professional Career Person Looking Forward To Marriage


Saturday 13th April 2019


12.00noon - 3.00pm prompt

Marriage is a key factor capable of impacting the lives and career outcomes of professionals. Getting into marriage being aware of some essentials and key necessities peculiar to relationships of professionals will be helpful in guaranteeing a higher success rate of marriages, and more positive impacts on the lives and careers of professional couples, thereby also benefiting their organisations.

Programme Objectives 

A practical hands-on programme leveraged on relevant case studies to create awareness amongst professionals of some essentials for successful marriages of career people, relative to the inherent talents and strengths of the partners in marriage. It will empower participants to recognise the dynamics of individual differences as an ingredient for building successful marriages, careers and lives as professionals.    

Programme Content:
a) Welcome/Networking
 b) Managing the transition from singlehood to married life. Some specifics of the marriages of professional career persons – an interview session with a couple – followed by Q&A by participants
 c) Can the quality of your relationship be critical to your career and its outcome(s)?
 d) An exercise for participants on self-awareness/Brief introduction to Clifton Strengths Assessments tool and the report
 e) Explore & discover how personal strengths play Into making relationships a success or failure – A
      Case Study/Review
 f) Lunch
g) Raffle Draw – with a winner (for the programme participants only)
 h) Wrap Up/Closing

Event Venue & Payment Details

The Thrive Place Ltd
              24 T.E Williams Street
              Chief Rotimi Williams Estate (Kay Farms)
              Off Bola Ahmed Tinubu Road
              Iju, Ifako-Ijaiye, Lagos

Direction code to location of Kay Farms via Google maps is 6°39’22.88″N 3°20’41.0″E 

Price per participant: # 10k for one and #15k for two in relationship (Limited seats)

Bank details:
Account Name: The Thrive Place Limited
Account Number: 1015847884
Bank: Zenith


Pay and confirm evidence of payment to and/or for The Thrive Place Ltd to reserve your seat, with a return confirmation 

email. Booking can also be done through Eventbrite.


You will be grateful you came.


Chief Organiser – Professional Coach Carol Sam-Umurhurhu –
Supported by Gallup Certified Strengths Coach – Samson Umurhurhu
(Former Head of Human Resources, Nestle Nigeria PLC, Former Head
of Human Resources, Nestle Central & West Africa)  

Our Speakers

Samson is passionate about partnering to develop and grow identified talents, professionals and corporate executives, as well as teams and private individuals. He partners in a way that frees them up, drives results to boost their levels of success, and achieve desired objectives. 


Carol is driven by her passion to support clients in thriving against the odds in their personal and family lives, and in order for them to fully realise their potentials.

Carol Sam-Umurhurhu



By Samson Umurhurhu

The First Impressions

I watched a musical show where contestants competed to win. A contestant wearing a special hat, and carrying a guitar came before the panel of judges.  A little while into the contestant’s performance, he was stopped prematurely by the judges, who said:

‘You have a beautiful voice being drowned out by bad habits in the ‘name of entertainment’. We want to hear your voice. It also appears your hat does not look t for purpose, for the kind of musician you want to be. Because of your great voice, we will give you a second chance. We think, you do not know who you are yet. Go and consider the feedback we have shared with you, and come back with or without your guitar to do something different which sets you apart’.

”You have a beautiful voice being drowned out by bad habits in the ‘name of entertainment”

The Second Chance

After a while, the contestant returned, and sighting him, one of the judges exclaimed, ‘look who we’ve got’. The contestant walked into the room, without his special hat and guitar. He was asked, ‘what happened to you’. He said, ‘I lost my hat, and put my guitar away’. One of the judges said, ‘I see you have gone through a metamorphosis’. ‘You look new and different’.

The contestant sang the second time; and the judges’ comments were, ‘We really love the brand new you. We now hear your voice, and your image is brilliant.  Your performance is honest, authentic and believable. At last, we have gotten to really know you, and have fallen in love with you’. The judges unanimously voted the contestant for the next stage of the competition, with one judge declaring, ‘I am excited to watch your journey’.

 In response, the contestant said, ‘this is probably one of the few times I have sang without my guitar. It is something I had always wanted to do, but could not. ‘Thank you for encouraging me to look for myself, and not be someone else’.

Benefits of Self-Reflection

The contestant deliberately ‘lost his special hat’, and put away his guitar, because he self-reflected on what he considered to be an honest feedback from the judges, vis-àvis the kind of musician and performer he wanted to become. He was determined, and acted to eliminate whatever stood in the way of his achieving his dreams, despite the discomfort of letting go of what he had been used to (including his hat and guitar).

What a turnaround; a contestant with great qualities and potentials shrouded by distractive trappings. He accepted the challenge to free himself of unnecessary entanglements, renovated himself, and felt liberated to act and move into the future of his dream.

How This Affects Us

Many people cling to the past because they believe their better days are behind them. They also cling to the present believing it’s the best they can have. Often our lives are cluttered with things which drown our strengths and qualities that set us apart, and the clutter may be blind spots to us. e clutter serves as barriers and limitations against our moving forward. Occasionally it will need the support and intervention of those honestly interested in giving us relevant feedback, to create the awareness of these things. Being aware of them, we also need to intentionally move to take the required actions in removing the identified barriers.

There are times I have looked at the mirror, and observed that there was dirt on my face, which none of the people I have been interacting with pointed out to me. Occasionally, people find it difficult to tell us issues that are obviously getting in our way, and which must be corrected or changed. Additionally, habits die hard; they are difficult to change.

We all have our ‘hats and guitars’ which we must lose, or which we must learn how to use in a t for purpose way, enabling us to become the best versions of ourselves. You may have to give up things that hinder, in order to make room to develop those that help and enhance you. Professionals, who want to attain their best, must regularly identify their ‘hats and guitars’. This is why appointing and empowering trusted partners (or even a personal professional coach) as a sounding board and support, can facilitate your life and career progress.

There is Hope

Professionals receive feedback on assignments, quality of work, time management, attitude, skills, relationships and stakeholders’ management amongst others in their interactions at work, and during performance reviews. What is your practice of considering these feedback, and honestly evaluating what you have to give up or correct, in order to gain something more valuable; helping you become whom you want to be?

In order to attain one’s very best, just as there are things to lose in order for you to gain and win, there are also things already working in your favour, that have to be identified for reinforcement and consolidation.

Final Word Change enabling you to move towards whom you want to be is a desirable thing. Such a change is for your good, with lifelong benefits. Expect it, demand it, and embrace it. Become a model professional whose lifestyle involves releasing yourself for the best, in a way, the world becomes excited to watch your journey.

A Chapter Extract from Book by Samson Umurhurhu,
‘Thriving Against The Odds – 15 Ideas For Professionals,
Executives & Leaders To Sustain Advancement’, published